Monday, October 24, 2016


Is there anything better as a parent than dressing your kid up and taking pictures that will either:
1. Live on the mantle
2. Be saved for retribution and payback during the child's rehearsal dinner

As we work on our adoption paperwork, Mr. A and I are also talking through some of the "fun" conversations I imagine most parents talk about during pregnancy.  What will we name our child?  What type of things do we want to be able to do (Mr. A's latest kick is researching a baby backpack that will take our child on all sorts of adventures), and of course the most important one, what will our kid be for Halloween?

My friends with babies have really raised the bar, so I feel it's only right to go ahead and be planning these sorts of things early- the photo opportunities are endless.

For fun, here are some of our top contenders for cute baby (and family) Halloween pics:

Babies dressed as grandmas and grandpas.  So cute...

This is the highway to the danger zone of adorable-ness

Stop.  The precious-ness is too much.

Don't take the easy route and be the superhero- Clark Kent with those glasses!  LOVE!

Then there's the family costume routine.  Here are some of my favorites:
Bzzzzzz... the cuteness!!!

Jurassic Park throwback!  Love it!

I mean, can you go wrong with Mario Brothers?

Any child as an Oompa Loompa gets the win in my book!

I think we really need to step up our game if cute ideas like this exist.  I can't wait to get started.

Want to pray, share or invest in our journey?  You can do so here:

Thursday, October 20, 2016

The numbers are in....

Thanks to all of you and your generosity, we were able to raise $2000 over my birthday.  So, that's $4,000 including the match amount by my folks, which they made last night on the site.

Thank you so much!  Including these, we are $1,500 away from our first installment to the adoption agency.

I keep thinking about our child and wondering how in the world I will be able to show them how much they were loved even before we knew the details about them.  This child has so many honorary family members through this journey I should plan a reunion!

We do have some additional pieces planned for next month (World Adoption Month!!) with some fun raffles, holiday gift ideas, etc. and even a potential Live Facebook Event so be on the lookout!

I mentioned it before, but please be praying that we can sell our piano.  I've had some interest, but it's really something we would like to go towards these expenses.  Anyone in the Middle Ga area- please spread the word, as the piano is currently on loan at our old church.

Thank you again!  Please continue to pray and please continue to share our story!

Wednesday, October 19, 2016

42% of the Way

So many of you have asked how adoption works, why is it so expensive, what's next, etc. so I wanted to try to break down a little more in terms of fees, steps, etc. Please know that each adoption may be slightly different in terms of steps, fees, etc.- this is our journey:
Obviously the above is a VERY simplified version, but I hope it gives you a better sense of where we are and the steps that are coming.  Now for the fee breakdown:

$25,900- Agency Fees*
$2,000- Home Study**
$6-10,000- Inner-State Fees***
$2,000- Travel Expenses****
$2,000- Misc Expenses*****
$37,900-41,900 TOTAL

*Agency Fees- include the costs for marketing our profile, birth parent counseling, child's birth expenses, post-placement supervision until the adoption is finalized and overhead/operating expenses of the agency
**Home Study- This is the study a social worker must do to evaluate the safety of our home and stability of our lives.
***Inner-State Fees-Each state's adoption fees are different based on the people needed to finalize (social worker, attorney, etc) and the laws of that state.
****Travel Expenses- We want to only consider adoption from states that limit the termination of parental rights to 24-72 hours, however some states require adoptive parents to stay in that state as long as 14 days before being able to travel home.
*****Misc Expenses- We were advised to save a cushion in case of extenuating circumstances- perhaps a birth mother needs more financial care or the state fees are larger than anticipated.

Our agency allows us to break down the fees due to them- the first installment is due at the beginning while the remaining portion is due when we are matched.  This is huge as it allows us to fund-raise, apply for grants, etc. while we are in the "waiting" period.

Several of you have asked why we are fundraising for less than the total amount.  We are also trying to save and sell on our own and it's my hope that we can also apply for some grants once we get a little further in the process.  I'm in the process of trying to sell my baby grand piano- please pray for a buyer for this as it will help with a chunk of these expenses.

Not including my mom's "match amount"  (see that story here), with the donations on the site as well as checks sent in the mail, we are 42% complete with our fundraising goal of $30,000 in less than a month!  That's 31% of our total amount needed.  I'm completely blown away by everyone's sweet generosity!

I hope you will consider sharing this post on your social feed.  Feel free to tag me, but we've found that by sharing, you are actually helping us reach a network beyond what we can see.  Regardless of the funding, it's also our desire to connect with others who are familiar with adoption or infertility.  You can either share the blog or the site below.  If you share and want to use the hashtag #carradoption that'd be great!

If you would like to pray, share or invest in our journey, please do so here:

Tuesday, October 18, 2016

Birthday Aftermath and Wedded Bliss

Wow.  You all know how to make a birthday girl so so happy!  Not only did I have a very happy birthday thanks to the sweet cards, texts, FB messages, but you all really rallied around and gave my parents a match challenge!  I'm tallying the official numbers and will be sharing those soon, but THANK YOU all. You are helping us get closer to our dream and in the process, we are connecting with people all over through infertility, adoption, family and love.

And, by the way, my birthday was awesome!  A dear dear friend's wedding was on the 15th and Mr. A and I have been planning on attending this wedding for almost 6 months.  It was so nice to watch 2 people so in love recite vows in front of friends and family.  This was a Scottish Highland ceremony and it really just looked like an out-take from deleted scenes from Braveheart... snow on the ground, tartans (plaids) everywhere, and my friends even did the "handfast" ceremony in their ceremony.  Basically, the plaids from the two clans are entwined over the couples joined hands as they recite vows- this is where the term "tying the knot" comes from.

The beautiful bride, my friend Laura, has been through the longest of long distance relationships- he's been in Scotland while she's been in Canada and it was so amazing to see them come together in marriage!  As I watched my sweet friend marry her husband, I thought back to the last time we'd seen each other.  This would be 3 years ago at another wedding and she had just started seeing her man (coincidentally who is also a Mr. A!).  She was so giddy with excitement, so eager for us to meet him, and really just looking forward to what that next step with him looked like.  I remember that they would text/chat and he even sent her flowers during that weekend and the snippets of their budding relationship even at it's beginning stages was so amazing to witness!

In a way, and through all of your support, I feel a bit like my friend when it comes to our baby.  Excited, giddy, waiting anxiously for the day we can be together, anxious for you to meet him or her and desperate to jump to that next step.  Now, while I don't have a child yet to hold or love, it's your communications, your notes of encouragement and your financial support that is getting me through this time.  You keep me excited, you strengthen me when I start to falter or worry, and your confidence in this path Mr. A and I are on is so unshakable- I really draw on your strength.  THANK YOU ALL.  This blog and the response to it has been a bit of a rock for me.  I know we have a long road ahead, and I promise not every post will be so centered on us and our journey, but I have to tell you all what it means to me to have you along with me- I can't thank you enough.

And... for fun and because they are so pretty- here's a pic of the newly married couple!  Congrats Laura and Mr. Scottish A!
If you would like to pray, share or invest in our adoption journey, please do so here:

Saturday, October 15, 2016

Birthday Gifts that Keep Giving

It's today!  Happy Birthday to Me!  Happy big 3-something!!

If you haven't seen it, today is a special fundraising day- my parents have offered to match any donations made today as a birthday gift.

If you haven't thought about it, I want to urge you to give.  Adoption is expensive, and in order to grow our family, we do have to raise the funds needed with this agency in order to move forward.  $1, $10, $100- every penny helps.  If you are unable to give, I'd like to ask you to share our story on your social feed- you never know who is affected by adoption or infertility that we could connect with.

To read my mom's letter to you, please click here.  If you'd like to pray, share or give, you can go to our website:

Thanks Mom and Dad!

Friday, October 14, 2016


Tomorrow!  Tomorrow!  My Birthday!  Tomorrow!   You're Only a Day Away! (now sing that just like Annie does)

Tomorrow's the big day and a giving blitz thanks to the generosity of my parents who have offered to MATCH any donations made towards our adoption fund on my birthday.

$1, $10 and so on- every little bit helps!

Read my mom's sweet letter here.

If you would like to pray, share or invest in our journey, you can do so here:

Thursday, October 13, 2016

A Birthday Letter From My Mother

Happy Birthday to me on the 15th!!

Normally, birthdays are a hit and miss, since every year that goes by has normally just reminded me of what I'm missing.  But this year it's different.  I'm lighter, more excited and really anticipating what this will bring.

The day of my birth was a major one in the tiny town of LaGrange, Georgia.  I was the first baby to ever get to stay in the room with the parents- it was a pretty big deal and the local newspaper even wrote an article (complete with my first public photo) about the notion of babies staying with the mother.  In thinking about being a parent, I think about my parents.  What did they feel when they saw me for the first time?  In those first few days of bonding, were they just overwhelmed with joy and happiness?  Did they know even then how much that relationship would define all of us for the rest of our lives?

My mom has been a source of education, knowledge and the best prayer warrior I know and she and my dad have written a sweet letter to all of you that I wanted to share along with an exciting piece of news:
In honor of the big day, any donations towards our adoption journey on October 15th will be matched by my parents.  I am so grateful for them and for all of  you.  Please see the below, share this story through your social feeds and if you can, give on October 15th.

You can do so here:

From my mom:

Whoever would have known that in 1989, God began to prepare my heart for adoption of a grand baby! I had the opportunity to work for a Christian adoption agency in Macon, Ga. I was responsible for conducting Home assessments for couples adopting in Romania from orphanages. As the agency grew, I was the Adoption Caseworker for domestic adoptions . 

My life was impacted by so many couples that desired to parent ...and birth parents in crisis that chose an adoption plan for their child. What an awesome job and privilege to see God match the right baby in the best forever family ! Many of these babies have graduated from high school now and have thrived in their family. Some adoptive couples met their baby in the hospital the day they were born and others were introduced on "placement day" in our office . Regardless of the circumstances, it was a day of tears and thanksgiving!

In 2005 after our relocation to Atlanta , I began working for the State in the Foster Care and Adoption unit . A different experience witnessing children being removed from homes due to neglect or abuse . We worked hard to reunite these families through many services and court plans but there were some that adoption was best for the child . What a celebration to have a child with their forever family!
Through this job, God continued to teach me about His love for children and birth parents that are unable to parent.

My retirement from social work was rewarded with the opportunity to be a "nanny" for 2 children that God blessed through adoption . I was actually at the hospital when the oldest went home with his forever family! Lots of tears of joy!

And now I am a Nana to two precious grandsons! God is faithful and we want you to know we are committed to Katy and Adam's adoption journey! We will love this child and always have respect and grateful heart for sacrificial birthparents who have made an adoption plan.

We've been so humbled by the prayers, donations  and support of our family and friends ! And just wanted you to know we are committed to this journey as well!
In closing, when Katy was only 12 years old and lived in Macon ,Ga. she was introduced to the ministry of Adoption!

God brought Adam into our family to love and NOW we anticipate a grandchild through adoption.
Happy Birthday Katy!!! Love you and Adam! And Committed to be Forever Nana & Granddaddy!


We are matching your support in honor of our bday girl and her precious husband!

Thanks Mom and Dad!  We love you!
Nana and Granddaddy